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On the Blog Post How Sibling Rivalry Helps Kids Prepare for Life
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On the Blog Post Predators Walk Among Us
Sharon Silver
7:21 pm on Monday, April 30, 2012
ReplyYou're very welcome Monique.
I was hesitant to get involved, and then to write about it. I looked at the writing of this as a public service announcement. If your body sends alarms like that Pay Attention, which is what I did. Then I wrote about it because I wanted parents to know you can no longer just tell kids "Don't talk to strangers." Predators are "grooming" kids so when they approach them again the kids don't see them as strangers. Thanks again for your kind words. -
On the Blog Post Predators Walk Among Us
Sharon Silver
7:16 pm on Monday, April 30, 2012
ReplyVictor this is very much an authentic piece. It really did happen to me. As far as the "advertising" goes. I have resisted doing any marketing for many years. This is how I feed my family and I'm no longer willing to hide who I am and what I offer. Sometimes the byline has a lot in it, like now, and other times not so much. I have authentic products to service parents and children. If I don't let others know about what's available, who will? Thanks for bringing it up.
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On the Blog Post Getting Better Behavior Without Threats and Yelling
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On the Blog Post BLOG: Giving Kids Choices that Lead to Cooperation
Sharon Silver
12:37 pm on Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Thanks Ryan.
Your comment is such a great concept for kids. I've always believed in the idea of classroom as a community. Armed with the right sample conversations your idea could be something to look at. I will contact you off line hopefully next week.
Sharon ~ Proactive Parenting -
On the Blog Post BLOG: Giving Kids Choices that Lead to Cooperation
Sharon Silver
1:51 pm on Tuesday, April 17, 2012
The choices you'd use when a child is emotional begins with the understanding that asking a child to "stop" being emotional is not on the table. What is on the table is asking a child "what they need" in order to stop being emotional. You'd reword this so it's age appropriate and ask,"How can I help you get your needs met."
The un-met need is at the root of the emotionality. A child, as you well know, uses his or her emotions to express what's too difficult to put into words at her age. The emotionality is the outcome, the unmet need is the root.
The choice sounds like this.
Mom: "Do you need to breathe or walk around to calm down?"
Child: "NO!"
Mom: "Do you need a hug or a back-rub?"
Child: (crying) "A hug."
Mom: (after a nice long hug) "When you're ready please use a calm voice and tell me what's going on, or you can whisper it in my ear."
Child: (still crying) "Whisper now."I hope this helps. May I use some of or all of your wonderful question as the basis of an article? Of course giving your credit and including your url?
Sharon ~ Proactive Parenting -
On the Blog Post Yelling Can Cancel Listening
Sharon Silver
7:06 pm on Saturday, March 31, 2012
Reply24/7 Modern Mom,
I would be honored if you used my article. So sorry that I didn't get back to you sooner. Life swallowed me whole this week! What do you want me to do next? Go to my website and email me from there. www.proactiveparenting.net. Thanks Sharon ~ Proactive Parenting
Sharon Silver
6:45 pm on Saturday, May 26, 2012
I understand! Lol! And hope this helps!